Monthly Archives: December 2012

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The Best Ways to Deal with Family

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This past summer my parents spent a weekend with my boyfriend’s family. They had only met once before (last year at lunch) and we’ve been together for 5 years… so it could have been awkward, full of drama, or even like Meet the Fockers. Which means: I could have been a nervous wreck and I could have tried to control the situation.

However, in the spirit of letting go of expectations and control I went into the situation completely hands off and it was an amazing weekend. Seriously. It was beautiful; everyone got along, had a ton of fun, and I felt comfortable and relaxed the whole time. It went so well because I embraced this as an opportunity to ::

TRUST that everything would go well,

LET GO of my expectations and fears,

and LOVE those around me as they are, NO strings attached.

I thought of this story recently as I know the holidays are upon us, and along with garland, Christmas trees, and gifts come parties, festivities and gatherings – and many family gatherings can go hand and hand with stress, anxiety and even fear.

Concerns over your father’s hunting stories, political or religious differences, you’re mom’s weird laugh, past issues, differences of opinion, horrible stories of your Junior High years being shared over dinner… In your head you can create scenario after scenario of disaster, work yourself up into a frenzy of anxiety and stress, try to do everything in your power to make it perfect and then either melt down or freak out. Either way, it’s not pretty, effective, or useful. And it’s certainly no fun.

Thankfully this summer taught me that when you let go of control and walk into a situation with acceptance and trust the universe rewards you.

Yes, things might not go perfectly. It may rain the whole weekend, someone’s train could be delayed, or that story of gum getting stuck in your hair may be told BUT rather than resisting and holding onto what you hope to happen, you’ll roll with it. You’ll laugh when something goes wrong. You’ll go with the flow and enjoy the present moment, instead of being stuck on how you wish it was going.

Opening your heart and your mind creates opportunities where harmony, joy, and love can thrive.

Living with your hands clenched and your heart heavy only closes you off to those opportunities.

So, this holiday season, try walking into your next party or event with an open heart and mind… Try welcoming each celebration as a time to accept those around you, faults and all. Try letting go of the term “perfection”, and adopting fun, adventure, and flexibility in its place. Try tossing your expectations, fears, and limiting beliefs out the door, and embrace acceptance and mindfulness instead. Try letting your true authentic self shine, 100%. Try celebrating – not worrying. And I bet you’ll have more fun!

By: Erin Madore

Erin Madore is known for her radiant energy, bright smile and willingness to get real. After moving past her own barriers to happiness she knew that she could help other women though the same mindful yet bold approach she used to create a joyful, engaging life. 

As a writer, life coach and wellness warrior Erin empowers and inspires others through her writing, e-books, workshops, Reiki and one-on-one sessions. Dedicated to helping people find clarity, direction and confidence Erin loves connecting with people on their journey to blissful well-being and happiness. She lives by the Helen Keller’s quote, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing” and encourages all of us to embrace all of life, every day.

Connect with her at Creative Soul in Motion, ErinMadore.com, through Twitter, and Facebook.

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How To Change Your Thoughts To Give Meaning To The Loss

By | Women's Health | 14 Comments

Our biggest transformations are almost always these tiny little micro adjustments in thought.

I LOVE THAT.

Let me explain.

Nobody gets through life without experiencing some form of loss. For me it was the painful experience of my daughter dying. It may be a death, divorce, cancer or the loss of innocence as a child. Whatever the loss – these experiences become a part of our thoughts.

It’s these tiny micro adjustments in our thoughts that have a huge power to give meaning to the loss.

Our words are the result of these deep thoughts and beliefs that we have taken on from our past experiences.

No matter how old they are or steadfast they may seem a slight adjustment in them can often change our world.  And it’s through these tiny adjustments in thoughts that over time become transformations in our life.

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I have shared so much about the loss of my daughter in a drowning accident years ago because the journey through that loss was encased in lessons.  Lessons of forgiveness, (for myself and for her for leaving me), despair, guilt, faith, survival, love, happiness, and so much more.

That very night of her death I took on beliefs. Some were serving but most were not. Regardless they all seemed very real. As if they were carved in stone as laws. But the reality was, none of them where laws at all.

The lessons I learned came in these tiny ahhh haaa moments, adjustments in thought, that chipped at the stone bit by bit and over time the stone, and the false laws crumbled.

The problem is, many times we never question the beliefs that we take on. We get comfortable with the thoughts and beliefs. We get comfortable with the patterns the routine, repeating day after day, week after week.

The same thoughts and patterns are lived over and over.

It becomes a part of our identity and it’s scary as h*ll to let go of a piece of our identity even when it’s not true.

We feel guilty as we start to let go of grief. Guilty that we start to laugh again, guilty that we can enjoy life again.

Here is where we can get stuck.  Guilt and fear can hold us to the old thoughts, the old words and patterns and we miss those tiny adjustments, the ahh haaa moments that are part of life’s transformations. We miss how we can give meaning to the loss, how we can begin to truly thrive.

Life is precious.

Not just my daughter Serena’s life, but all of us our lives are precious. We are all here for a purpose. The experiences of our past are for a reason and can be our biggest opportunity for transformation.

So how do you find those ahh haaa moments to transform, give meaning to the loss  and thrive?

Know your words are your destiny.

Your words are the expression of your deepest beliefs about what’s possible.

You have the power to choose and change your words and therefore change your life and give meaning to your loss.

Those ahh haaa moments come when you change what you’re telling yourself.

It is the combination of you and your past experiences and the wisdom you’ve gained through these experiences, these ahh haaa moments that become your story to share with the world and can give meaning to the loss.

Listen to your words.   What are you telling yourself?

If you would like to learn more about how to discover inquire and reveal your living journey, leave your name and email at the top of this page and we will send you your complimentary copy of Journal Of Discovery to your inbox today.

 

To Your Life Without Limits,

Elena & Jean

 

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Do You Have The Courage To Keep Living Your Life?

By | Women's Health | 7 Comments

We all have a calling that is inside us, nudging us to move forward on our life journey.

Whether it’s a calling to improve your health, your finances, your relationships, your spirituality, freedom, or travel. Whatever it is we are all on a journey that is constantly moving and calling us to keep searching for a better you, to live life to the fullest.

 Will you have the courage to keep living your life to the fullest, to thrive?

Regardless of our past we all have the choice and possibilities to create our life without limits. Nothing we can do today can change our past but how we interpret our past and use the lessons can help us live a life filled with purpose, passion and to thrive.

But first we have to have the courage to step out beyond our fears, and what we currently believe is possible.

For some of us we know our purpose and passion. Inside us there is this constant nudging, but there may also be a belief that it’s not possible for us to achieve it.

The dream or goal feels unbelievable at least on some level.  When we feel the nudging to create a better life we hold ourselves back by our own limiting beliefs. It takes courage to let go of those limiting beliefs and continue on your journey and not just live but thrive.

I don’t have, “enough time, enough education, resources, connections, or deserve to be happy.” Whatever it is, it’s our own creation of beliefs that is keeping us from fulfilling our full purpose and living life to the fullest.

Whatever it is that you desire, creating it starts with letting go of these limiting beliefs that are part of your life right now.

For some of us our purpose or passions are hidden deep inside and pulling them forward is part of our challenge.

So where do you start? How do you know what it is that’s calling you forward?

The answers are inside you. So lets rise up and get going.

Grab your journal, if you don’t have one you can download your copy of Journal Of Discovery from the top of this page and use it, or use a piece of paper.

Find a quiet place, get comfortable and take a few deep breaths and relax.

Ask yourself,

  • What does your ideal life look like?”
  • What is it that you would like to do, be, or share, with the world?
  • What part of your life right now is not what you would like it to be?
  • What part of your life are you unhappy with?
  • What do you choose right now to change to create your life without limits?

Write the questions then take some time to tune into your inner self for the answers.

When you think of your answers and your new life are you filled with excitement?

Does the new idea match your core values? If not go back and think about your ideal life again.

When I was part of a large corporation, I thought that I had my dream job and was living my purpose. But as time went on and I was moving further and further into the corporate lifestyle I was becoming more and more discontent.  I felt more and more trapped.

It wasn’t until I realized I was not in alignment with my core values that I understood the feelings. I had not considered whether or not my corporate lifestyle and job matched my core value of freedom – to be able to spend my time with my family as I elected. When my daughter passed away I kept praying for just a few minutes with her. Freedom to spend time as I choose was a strong core value.

Your true purpose and passions will not conflict with your core values.

Our past experiences and struggles have brought us lessons and strength that today we can use to continue our life journey. Make a commitment to stay in alignment with your purpose. Allow yourself time to reconnect daily with your purpose knowing it’s possible for you to live your life without limits.

We would love to here more about you and your journey of discovery. Leave your comments below this post and if you would like to connect with us personally we would love to hear from you. Connect with us here.

 

To Your Life Without Limits,

 

 

Elena & Jean

 

To get your complimentary copy of Journal Of Discovery, leave your name and email in at the top of this page and we will send it to your inbox today.

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To Sandy Hook Elementary School And Newtown Connecticut We Send Our Love

By | Women's Health | No Comments

To all the wonderful people of Sandy Hook Elementary School and Newtown Connecticut we send our loving thoughts and prayers.

 

Looking back at the first few days after my daughter passed away I remember being surrounded by friends and family all supporting us with their love.

This past January when Bobby passed away we were again surrounded by so many people all sharing the gift of love with us.

We feel very grateful to have been wrapped by so much generous and kind support.

Today we know our love is the greatest gift we can share with you to heal a broken heart.

To all the people in Newtown Connecticut know people all around the world are sending their love and prayers to you.

 

Our Love,

 

 

Elena & Jean

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7 Holiday Survival Tips For Busy Women

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7 holiday survival tips

Worried About Getting Through The Holidays?

“What is your biggest fitness challenge during the holiday season?”

You shared ~ I Listened!

After browsing through more than 500 responses submitted for this survey question, I made a list of the most common challenges and created a list of 7 holiday survival tips to help busy moms and busy women successfully navigate this holiday season to stay on track with their body shaping and fitness goals. Read More

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