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Breathe, Reconnect, Think... Then Respond

Breathe, Reconnect, Think… Then Respond

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Breathe, Reconnect, Think... Then RespondThink before you speak. Think before you act. It’s one of those sayings dealt out to children from the parenting deck of cards. It’s a saying that isn’t usually adopted by anyone and instead reserved for awkward moments of embarrassment or frustration. While it’s 100% good advice it’s actually very very hard to do, especially in a world that is moving faster and faster every.single.day.

It seems as though thinking has given way to reacting.

We react in anger every time someone cuts us off in traffic by yelling out.

We react in frustration every time a line is too long and the person at the front is going too slow. 

We react in defense every time our methods or beliefs or lifestyle is questioned. 

We are a society that does a whole lot of reacting and not a ton of thinking or breathing. And where does this get us? No where. In fact, it puts up walls around our hearts and minds, it fills our spirits with pain and despair, and clouds our vision so we can’t see or connect with anyone or anything around us.

Even though it seems hard to stop from reacting – even though reacting seems immediate and unstoppable – I do believe the old adage is right, it is important to think before you act.

It’s just missing two fundamental steps that need to come first, that can help you pause and take value of yourself, your situation and the world around you: breathing and reconnecting… One deep breath creates space and opportunity, clears your vision, illuminates the entire situation. One moment of reconnection with your heart/mind/soul can help you remember and realign with your true values and purpose.

One deep breath brings light into the darkness, one moment of reconnection brings truth into your being, and one chance to think, to truly think, can help you respond with mindfulness.

For instance, what if we prayed for safe travel for those rushing from one place to the next?

What if we relied on patience and compassion when the line seems to go on forever?

What if we embraced acceptance and understanding when met with new ideas, beliefs and lifestyles?

What if we began breathing, reconnecting, and thinking before doing anything else?

Rather than getting angry/frustrated/defensive every time something goes a little off-course, what if we took a deep breath, reconnected with our heart, and thought about the situation as a whole? What if we realized that not everyone is out to get us, that not everything and everyone is against us, that not every slight is meant to hurt us? What if we realized that we don’t need to rush our response, that there is time for honesty, compassion and mindfulness?

I believe if we began moving a little slower, giving ourselves the time and opportunity to breathe/reconnect/and think we would create ripples of peace and compassion that would change our mindset, our relationships, our day to day lives, and the world as a whole.

Breathe, reconnect, think… then respond.


undefinedErin is known for her radiant energy, bright smile and willingness to get real.

As a Writer, Life Coach and Reiki Guide Erin is dedicated to supporting people in their journey to find clarity, direction and happiness. After moving past her own barriers to happiness she knew that she could help others though the same mindful yet bold approach she used to create a joyful, engaging life. 

She believes in the importance of community, connection, compassion, and a good cup of coffee. 

Connect with her at Creative Soul in MotionErinMadore.com, through Twitter, and Facebook.

Transitioning with Openness & Honesty

Transitioning & Embracing Change With Openness & Honesty

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Transitioning with Openness & HonestyMid-May. A time for HUGE transitions ::: college students moving home, students graduating and moving into jobs, people getting married, couples buying their first homes together, the list goes on. Spring is quite simply the perfect time of year for change. In fact, it’s when nature itself is awakening and blooming; almost urging you along with every spring rain and budding flower.

And while change is inevitable and is always happening – moments like this can feel overwhelming, terrifying, and down right hard.

Hard because with a new situation comes new fears, new challenges, new expectations, hopes, plans and dreams. Hard because you’re familiar and comfortable with the old way, the old place, the old situation. Hard because change forces us to grow, to stretch ourselves a little farther, to think differently, to see things in a new light, sometimes it even requires a leap of faith with no net to catch you.

Growth comes with growing pains.

But during those moments of fear and struggle you have the chance, the ability, to surrender to change. To let go of the past, of expectations, of limiting beliefs. To open your heart, mind and body to this new adventure.To learn something new, to go somewhere different, to let your true self shine a bit brighter.

It’s in your power to embrace the process and the possibilities that come with change.

When you do open up to the transition – to embrace change – wondrous things can happen. Suddenly things can just fall into place. Opportunities can arise that you never expected. Connections can be made that lead to new and exciting relationships.

Embracing change requires an open heart to trust, an open mind to believe, an open soul to surrender.

Fighting change. Holding onto the old ways. Terrified of moving forward. All of this resistance eats up your energy and sends out a message to the world that you’re not willing to accept what it is offering you. Living stuck in place is like having your eyes closed, your hands in fists, and feet cemented into the ground – you’re inable to see clearly, to accept anything and you can’t move.

So what’s the first step to Embracing change?

Being honest about how you’re feeling, with yourself and others. Telling people that you’re scared/excited/nervous about this next step.

By admitting how you are truly feeling you can own and accept the situation, the transition, the change.

By sharing that experience with others you can find freedom from your restraints, clarity in your direction, and confidence in your actions.

Being honest takes a lot of courage and strength, but the more you open up the easier it becomes. It’s easy to feel like you have to fight the world alone but friends and family members are in your life to support and love you.

Faced with change? Be honest by opening up to yourself and others, and you may just find that everything will fall into place and you”ll be embracing  change! 


undefinedErin is known for her radiant energy, bright smile and willingness to get real.

As a writer, life coach and Reiki Guide Erin is dedicated to supporting people in their journey to find clarity, direction and happiness. After moving past her own barriers to happiness she knew that she could help others though the same mindful yet bold approach she used to create a joyful, engaging life. 

She believes in the importance of community, connection, compassion, and a good cup of coffee. 

Connect with her at Creative Soul in MotionErinMadore.com, through Twitter, and Facebook.

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How to Embrace Change

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88f618f04e27dec0f63e5c1a19e85b96To say a lot is going on in my life right now is a huge understatement. Let’s see… On Friday, 4/5, I left my full-time HR job so I can focus on my writing, coaching and Reiki business. Then two days later my wonderful boyfriend of 5+ years proposed to me! On top of that, we’re moving from Boston to California at the end of May!

That means that I am currently ::: working on a couple eBooks, redesigning my site, launching a business, planning a wedding, and organizing a cross-country move. Phew, that’s even a lot to say out loud. Now, I know it’s only been a few days, but (at this time) I’m not feeling stressed, overwhelmed or full of anxiety – even though there is a lot to do, and a lot going on.

Instead, every moment, every breath, is full of hope, possibility, love and most of all trust. Trust that I’ve laid a foundation to help me get through all of these changes with grace. Trust that everything will work out. Trust that the universe has my best interests at heart. Trust that everything is part of the journey, the process, the experience of life.

I’m not in denial :: yes there is a lot to do – but I’m also not letting it take over my life. I’m not letting all of this change throw me off balance. I’m not letting the future over-run the present. I also realize that there will be moments where I feel overwhelmed and stressed-out but that’s natural and rather than fighting against it, I’m welcoming it ALL as part of the journey.

So rather than losing my Self in the chaos, or even welcoming chaos into my life, I’m enjoying and navigating all of these changes mindfully.


Here is how I’m running around with my head still attached and a smile on my face:

I’m living and experiencing, not just planning and scheduling.

My life is headed in a new direction and while I may be moving fast I’m not letting the scenery flash by me at lightening speed. Instead, I’m embracing each day, finding the beauty in each moment, savoring time with my loved ones, and generally moving slower. I’m intent on taking in the journey and the ride.

I’m trusting my instincts.

Like “they” say :: planning a wedding is as hard as you make it. Well, I think that goes for all of life actually. Since Josh and I have a lot to do within the next 8 weeks we’re not second-guessing ourselves or putting a ton of time into research and comparison. Instead, we’re figuring out what we need to know and making decisions that feel good to us. Decisions that feel right.

Marie Forleo has an incredible video on how you can tell if you’re following your gut and living in accordance with your core beliefs, values and desires. Check it out here. My biggest take-away :: when something feels “right” for me I’ll feel expansive, open and excited.

I’m relying on self-care and self-love.

Yoga. Running. Meditation. Reiki. Dance. These are all the ways I clear my head, create space in my soul, ground myself, and connect with my true authentic Self. During times of transition it’s easy to forget about self-care and fall back on bad habits, but when I immerse myself in those practices that nourish my mind, body, and soul, I find it easier to be mindful, to live boldly, to make decisions clearly, to move forward confidently. Through movement I find strength and stability.

I’m remembering to laugh, and to smile. 

Those times when things don’t go right. When my schedule falls apart. When the day escapes me. Those are the moments are the times I could clench my hands and shake my fists at my really really long to do list. Instead I laugh. Out loud usually. Big belly laughs. And I smile at the situation, at the moment. It’s not because I’m denying myself the right to be frustrated, or the experience of feeling overwhelmed. It’s because I’m being honest with myself ::: while all of this matters, it doesn’t matter enough to ruin my day or my life.

Change can be overwhelming, frustrating, challenging, scary. That’s normal. But through mindfulness, honesty, and a good sense of humor I’m learning to let go of the fear and anxiety and embrace the waves and tides of change.

Moving, getting married, starting a new business – these are all things I want and have created for myself, so I’m not going to curse the change. Rather, I’m going to enjoy the actual moments of change.

How do you embrace change?


undefinedErin is known for her radiant energy, bright smile and willingness to get real.

As a writer, life coach and Reiki Guide Erin is dedicated to supporting people in their journey to find clarity, direction and happiness. After moving past her own barriers to happiness she knew that she could help others though the same mindful yet bold approach she used to create a joyful, engaging life. Just recently she launched a video series: Creating Careers of Purpose that runs every Friday.

She believes in the importance of community, connection, compassion, and a good cup of coffee. 

Connect with her at Creative Soul in MotionErinMadore.com, through Twitter, and Facebook.

How to Deal with Bad News at Work

How to Deal with Bad News at Work

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I’ve received a lot of devastating news at work. A lot.

Last year it was at work where I found out my cousin’s 5 year-old daughter was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor, then a week later I was at work when I found out she had passed away.

Just recently I was in my cube when my mother called to tell me my Great Aunt had died. And just a couple weeks ago I was told my friend had a miscarriage one minute before a big meeting.

We cannot plan on receiving bad news and we cannot control it.

We can’t tell our friends and family :: I’m sorry, I’m at work and can’t hear this right now because I have too much to do.

It’s just not how life works. Especially with social media it’s hard to keep personal life and work life separate. And is that even practical or right? Aren’t we living, breathing, feeling human beings regardless of whether we’re at work or home? Yes we are.

I believe we should always be able to recognize and experience our feelings.

Here’s how I’ve learned to cope with emotional rollercoasters of life with grace and authenticity while in my corporate job ::

1. Don’t Ignore Your Feelings.

Acknowledge them. Embrace them. Feel them. Don’t hide them under layers of protective armor – ignoring your feelings will only create a deeper cut, a greater pain, a nagging sensation of loss and frustration. The longer you discount the feelings the greater power they will have over you.

2. Be Honest.

I’ve found that even though it’s a bit awkward to tell other people that you are going through a rough time, it can set clear expectations and create a foundation of understanding and support. A simple email or chat with your manager can warn her of your distress – that way if you’re a bit distracted in a meeting or behind in a project she’ll understand. This can also create a stronger bond between you and your manager – honestly speaking of feelings is scary but is a very courageous and genuine way of being human and professional at the same time.

3. Try to Continue Your Day as You Normally Would (or go home if you can).

This might seem contradictory but even though I encourage you to feel your emotions, I’m not suggesting that you sit in your cube crying or yelling out in pain. If the emotions are that intense it’d probably be best for you to go home where you can openly experience each feeling, but if you’re determined to stay and work through the day try to remember that :: it’s OKAY for you to keep working. Yes, work might not seem as important at that moment but it’s OKAY to stay focused and dedicated to your job, even when you’re heartbroken.

4. Don’t Feel Bad for Feeling Good.

It feels wrong to smile when you’ve just lost someone you love. I understand that. You feel bad for not honoring and respecting their passing. But you can’t stop living your own life. You can’t make yourself miserable and block out all the good that there is in the world.

Minutes after hearing about my Great Aunt I heard that a coworker was pregnant and for a brief second I felt bad for my happiness. I felt bad for being excited about my friend’s good news. Then I realized that my Great Aunt would have been happy for her too. That she wouldn’t want me to ignore the joy around me, even during my time of sadness.

5. Make Time to Grieve.

Even though you’ve been honest with yourself and those around you about what you’re going through, it’s still important to give yourself the space and time to truly embrace your feelings. Time to connect with your sadness, grief, fear, pain, confusion, anger. Time to be honest and raw. Time to let down your guard and be vulnerable.

Once you realize that emotions are natural and meant to be experienced and expressed you take away the negativity and hesitation surrounding them and can be present and honest with yourself and those around you.

Our emotions are beautiful. Even the ones that we wish we didn’t have to feel. It’s all part of life, and by embracing each and every experience we empower ourselves, we strengthen our hearts, we expand our compassion, we increase to our ability to heal, and we grow and flourish.

Erin


undefinedErin is known for her radiant energy, bright smile and willingness to get real.

As a writer, life coach and Reiki Guide Erin is dedicated to supporting people in their journey to find clarity, direction and happiness. After moving past her own barriers to happiness she knew that she could help others though the same mindful yet bold approach she used to create a joyful, engaging life. Just recently she launched a video series: Creating Careers of Purpose that runs every Friday.

She believes in the importance of community, connection, compassion, and a good cup of coffee. 

Connect with her at Creative Soul in MotionErinMadore.com, through Twitter, and Facebook.

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How to be Productive, NOT Busy

By | Women In Business | 5 Comments
637f8d55aaefbae9bec85d3a50b4f81aDoes this sound like you?
At the end of the day you’re often frustrated with your lack of progress on your always-growing to do list, but you’re busy and you feel like you’re getting stuff done, but in reality you’re just spinning your wheels – not really getting anywhere.
 
Let’s look at how easy it is to become stuck on the hamster wheel of busy-ness ::
 
Suzy works all day in an office as a Business Analyst but dreams of quitting and helping bloggers create incredible sites through branding and graphic design. So, she spends every spare night and weekend dedicating herself to her passion, her purpose; but she feels like she’s not getting anywhere… Night after night she sits down at her desk planning on writing a new branding eBook, or drafting a flyer to hang in local coffee shops; however, when it’s time to pack up and go to bed she realizes she didn’t start either! Instead, she was stuck in the never-ending loop of emails, web surfing, social media and planning.
 
Even though she’s “working” she’s not actually creating anything :: she’s reacting, not producing.
 
Does this sound like you? Don’t feel bad if it does! It used to be me and truthfully, the trap of busy-ness can still hit me today.
 
But being aware of the trap and knowing how to get around it can help you go from overwhelming busy-ness to kick-ass productivity.
 
1. Transition your mindset and your energy
 
In between events, projects, responsibilities, meetings, etc. it’s important to cleanse your energy and prepare your mind for the next project or task you are going to be working on.
Try this :: Close your eyes, take in a deep inhale, fill your lungs, hold for just a moment, then exhale forcefully through your mouth. Do this 5 – 10 times to help you clear your heart, mind and energy.
 
2. Declare your intention and goal
 
Know what you’re hoping to accomplish at this exact moment. Whatever you choose – working on a new project, answering emails, marketing – write this down on a sticky note and attach it to your monitor, somewhere you can see it.
This will help you use your time effectively because you will be focused on one
 
3. Clear away any and all distractions
 
Now that you know what you are focusing on it’s time to de-clutter and create space so that you can concentrate and give 100% of your energy, attention and passion into your goal.
This means :: closing out of your email, turning off your phone (or at least put it on silent), asking your roommate/children/partner to give you some time to work, and create.
 
4. Use a timer to keep yourself aware of your progress
 
Seems simple but using a timer is really helpful; especially for those that feel like the day just disappears!
Set your timer for 15 – 30 minutes (depending on how long you’ll be working) and every time it goes off use it as a quick check-in to make sure that you’re still on the right path. If not, gently re-focus your attention. Then re-set the timer for another 15 or 30 minutes, and keep using these check-ins throughout your day and night.
 
5. Take breaks. Seriously.
The only time you should keep working is if you’re in the FLOW :: if you’re so absorbed that you’ve literally become one with what you are creating – then you have my blessing to keep going!
But if you’re just working like normal, it’s actually better to take breaks to let your mind, your eyes, and your body rest. Take a short walk, brew a cup of tea, do some jumping jacks or flow through a couple sun salutations – anything to get yourself UP and away from your desk.
 
Do NOT check your email or go on any social media during this time. A break is a time to rest, reflect and re-energize :: none of which happens when you get sucked into Facebook or your inbox.
 
6. Give yourself a pat on the back
 
When it’s time to close down for the night think back to all you were able to accomplish and give yourself a little pat on the back. Seriously! And if you ended up folding laundry, walking the dog, making dinner, helping a friend in a crisis, or anything else that took you out of the productivity groove it’s still important to realize and appreciate all of your hard work.
You do a lot every single day and you should thank yourself every single night!

Erin

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Erin is known for her radiant energy, bright smile and willingness to get real.As a writer, life coach and Reiki Guide Erin is dedicated to supporting people in their journey to find clarity, direction and happiness. After moving past her own barriers to happiness she knew that she could help others though the same mindful yet bold approach she used to create a joyful, engaging life. Just recently she launched a video series: Creating Careers of Purpose that runs every Friday.

She believes in the importance of community, connection, compassion, and a good cup of coffee. 

Connect with her at Creative Soul in MotionErinMadore.com, through Twitter, and Facebook.