I have to admit I am a goal setter. I like to plan things out. I like to set up challenges for myself and check things off that I have accomplished.
But a lot of things changed for me after my daughter died and goals were certainly one of them. Learning to create goals that are bigger than your past circumstances can be difficult.
Let me explain.
After her death nothing felt peaceful, happy or normal. In fact life felt out of control, like I was a stranger in my own life. Life felt heavy and I felt like a victim. At that point I had given away my power to create more than my circumstance.
Once I realized I was the cause of whatever would be and not a victim in my life, I could take control. I could start with small steps.
It’s the small steps that begin the journey to create more than your past.
I started to make goals. Not big goals because I was coming from a place based on my current circumstances. What I knew.
But my current circumstances where my history. I had no idea that I could achieve something that was by far greater than when my daughter passed away. That I could create more than what had been lost!
I started with goals like,
- 10 min. to journal everyday.
- 10 minutes in nature.
- Time to meditate.
- Exercise 15 minutes.
- Write and read affirmations like, “I forgive myself.” “I am ____fill in the blank (loving, kind, at peace, happy), I choose to make the rest of my life the best of my life (Louise Hay).
You see these goals were small but they helped me to get my power back. These simple goals helped me to understand I had the power to create my best life.
It’s from this point you are able to create goals that are bigger than your past.
It’s tempting to set a goal you think you can achieve based on your current situation and circumstances. But, circumstances are nothing more then your history and lessons in life. They are not your destiny or fate.
There is something in you that is far greater than your past circumstances or the circumstances that you are facing now.
I know that for many people who have suffered a loss in there life, be it a serious illness, loss of innocence, or like us the death of a child or husband, that to have a life far greater then the life they have now or the life they had prior to the loss may feel impossible.
Even our suggestion of it may stir feelings of anger, guilt, feel cruel, or create a flood of tears. But we know that you have within you the power to choose your life no matter what the past circumstances have been and we wish nothing less for you than a life filled with love, peace, joy, passion and happiness.
We are here to help you live your best life, your life without limits.
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To Your Life Without Limits,
Elena & Jean
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