Time separates you from the event but it doesn’t heal or help you grow from the experience that’s… your work.
Let me explain. When my daughter died I kept asking,
“How long will it take for me to feel normal again?”
“Time heals,” I was told.
Sounded simple, “How much time?”
“Everyone is different,” they said.
Not concrete or specific enough at all for me.
I wanted real numbers like 6 months, a year, 18 months. Anything that would tell me that once I, “served my time,” I would be released from the sadness, guilt, pain.
I was looking for a magic time pill. I had no idea it didn’t exist.
What I have come to learn is that the answer can’t be concrete for one big reason.
It’s not a true statement. Time moves the pain below the surface but it doesn’t heal. You can’t “just serve your time.”
I found I had to work my time. In other words if I really wanted to heal and create a life without limits, I had to work at it.
The more I worked at the healing the more pain, guilt, sadness, heaviness I could release bit by bit.
We all have our own scars our own pain from the past that hurts to feel. Often I will hear, “It hurts to much to think about it.”
Do you ever feel that way about something in your past? Or like, “It doesn’t matter it was so long ago.”
Here is the truth. We heal by telling our stories.
Sharing your story heals by opening up to the feelings that are still trapped inside a deep place in your heart. The process of sharing your story opens up the door to let the emotions go and slowly the heaviness lifts.
I learned from my daughter, life is truly a gift and that each and every one of us our life is precious. I learned that the combination of her and I together showed me how much courage and strength I really had. I learned it doesn’t matter how much time we have, it’s how we use the time.
I learned the value of sharing stories and that sharing stories heal, not time. And honestly I learned so much more!
Not to say my lesson was more difficult than others because it’s not.
You have your own experiences and lessons whether it’s the loss of a loved one, divorce, loss of innocence, cancer, or something else.
There are some amazing hard earned experiences and lessons inside you!
You make a difference in the world when you share your experiences. Your experiences have meaning.
When we take the scars of our past and turn them into pearls of wisdom we have indeed honored ourselves, our experiences and when we share the pearls we honor our purpose.
Sharing your story and your message not only help you heal but it helps others heal also. It’s what other people are waiting to hear!
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To Your Life Without Limits,
Elena & Jean
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