People say that time heals all wounds but I found that’s not really true.
Time separates you from the event but it doesn’t heal or help you grow from the experience that’s… your work.
Let me explain. When my daughter died I kept asking,
“How long will it take for me to feel normal again?”
“Time heals,” I was told.
Sounded simple, “How much time?”
“Everyone is different,” they said.
Not concrete or specific enough at all for me.
I wanted real numbers like 6 months, a year, 18 months. Anything that would tell me that once I, “served my time,” I would be released from the sadness, guilt, pain.
I was looking for a magic time pill. I had no idea it didn’t exist.
What I have come to learn is that the answer can’t be concrete for one big reason.
It’s not a true statement. Time moves the pain below the surface but it doesn’t heal. You can’t “just serve your time.”
I found I had to work my time. In other words if I really wanted to heal and create a life without limits, I had to work at it.
The more I worked at the healing the more pain, guilt, sadness, heaviness I could release bit by bit.
We all have our own scars our own pain from the past that hurts to feel. Often I will hear, “It hurts to much to think about it.”
Do you ever feel that way about something in your past? Or like, “It doesn’t matter it was so long ago.”
Here is the truth. We heal by telling our stories.
Sharing your story heals by opening up to the feelings that are still trapped inside a deep place in your heart. The process of sharing your story opens up the door to let the emotions go and slowly the heaviness lifts.
I learned from my daughter, life is truly a gift and that each and every one of us our life is precious. I learned that the combination of her and I together showed me how much courage and strength I really had. I learned it doesn’t matter how much time we have, it’s how we use the time.
I learned the value of sharing stories and that sharing stories heal, not time. And honestly I learned so much more!
Not to say my lesson was more difficult than others because it’s not.
You have your own experiences and lessons whether it’s the loss of a loved one, divorce, loss of innocence, cancer, or something else.
There are some amazing hard earned experiences and lessons inside you!
You make a difference in the world when you share your experiences. Your experiences have meaning.
When we take the scars of our past and turn them into pearls of wisdom we have indeed honored ourselves, our experiences and when we share the pearls we honor our purpose.
Sharing your story and your message not only help you heal but it helps others heal also. It’s what other people are waiting to hear!
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To Your Life Without Limits,
Elena & Jean
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As I read your articles I always imagine the healing energy you are putting out into the world…you are an inspiration to so many. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you Denny so much.
Such a heartfelt article. I agree with this: “Time moves the pain below the surface but it doesn’t heal. You can’t “just serve your time.” This is so true. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Alexandra. I wish all we had to do was serve the time it would be so much easier that way. Thanks for your comment.
I remember meeting with a grief counselor a few days after my first husband passed away and him looking me in the eyes and saying, “I wish I could tell you how to get over, under, or around the pain and grief, but the fact is, you can only go through it if you are going to heal and live again.” He was right. There are still moments of pain and sadness, even after 14 years. However, these are moments, not the overwhelming blanket of pain that used to surround me. Now, the smiles accompany the memories of the wonderful years we shared and enable to appreciate and enjoy even more the moments I’m living today!
It is such a great place when you can look back a see the blessing that the person and the experience brought. Your counselor had great words. Thanks Gladys so much for sharing.
Profound and such an important part of any recovery
“Sharing your story and your message not only help you heal but it helps others heal also.:… Spot on!!
Wonderful words of hope and inspiration for those who need it. Thanks for sharing your story, Jean.
You’re welcome Delia. Thanks for stopping by and leaving us a comment. We really appreciate it.
You say so many great things in this post. I recommend everyone should read it. One thing however stands out, there is a huge amount of value in sharing stories and that the sharing of stories help heal. I believe fully in this. Thanks so much for sharing your stories with us.
You are always inspiring us! I agree with your post, and think that we tell people how we feel it helps a lot!
Thank you for this. you are right. it is so important to share it. After sharing it we feel better.
Thanks for sharing this article Jeanmarie. I love the part, ” Time moves the pain below the surface but it doesn’t heal. You can’t “just serve your time.” There is really a need to work at it, and the positive attitude you put towards a difficult and painful situation will set you free and let you live life at its best.
Thank you Lorii.
What you say is so true! I kept my past under lock and key for years, and it wasn’t until I started talking about it that I could actually put it behind me. Thanks for a great post!
Your welcome Helena. It is true telling your story releases the feelings layer by layer and with that comes healing.
You are right, Jean. My sister just went home to be with Jesus and i find much comfort in talking about her and the wonderful life she lived… The purpose driven life. She was awesome, i miss her so much. Thanks for another great post. XoX
Thanks Norma. Healing takes work. Give yourself time to share her stories to journal, to release the emotions and tears. Each time you journal or share her story a little of the grief is lifted. Sending Loving thoughts to you.xox
what an amazing post, Jean. I so agree with “Time moves the pain below the surface but it doesn’t heal. You can’t “just serve your time.”” In my own grief process this is certainly the case. Healing does take work. Thank you so much for sharing this.