So much of our time is spent thinking about our past. Some say that by holding on to our past we hold on to our present identity. Recently we have looked at our past and seen how holding on to it hasn’t been serving us .
In fact we had to make peace with the past so it doesn’t ruin the present.
Sometimes we can hold on to anger, pain, and bitterness over other people’s words or actions for years and not forgive others.
We are all treated badly from time to time. Yes, our hearts get broken our trust is crushed and we relive the pain over and over again in our mind. We refuse to make peace with the past and to forgive others.
We ask ourselves,
“why did this happen to me?”
“What could I have said differently?”
“What could I have done differently?”
We tell ourselves,
“I don’t deserve this.”
“I didn’t do anything wrong.”
Well at least I did when my trust and confidence in someone else was shattered.
I had a close friend; a best friend for years that I shared my deepest secrets with. One day we got into a disagreement, things were said that were hurtful. Over and over in my mind I replayed the words, felt the hurt, hung onto the anger.
I simply had a hard time letting go. I was so busy being right. Make peace with the past and forgiveness were the furthest things in my mind.
I had no idea how much I was hurting myself by not letting go of the anger and by holding on to the pain.
By holding onto our riotousness, the only person that we hurt is our self.
I’ve learned that we give away a lot more than we gain when we don’t make peace with our past.
By not forgiving others, we keep ourselves in our past and in the bitterness.
We rob ourselves of peace and gratitude that comes with forgiving others. We rob ourselves of our future and of the greatness we all have within us.
I learned the hard way that forgiving others changes our own lives, not the life of the person we are forgiving.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting. It means learning from the past, to make peace with the past and to let go of the anger and pain you have locked inside. Once you let go you give yourself permission to move on with your life.
The person you are forgiving may or may not have changed. They may or may not have the same behaviors. That is something we can’t control. What we can control is our own thoughts and emotions.
When you choose to forgive and let go you take on your power to control your emotions and your future. By forgiving others you are bringing peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing into your own life.
When you take control and forgive you open up space in your life to move forward. To achieve, your life without limits.
We know that each and every one of us has greatness within us. We are all here to share our own unique skills and talents with the world. We are excited to be able to help you share your uniqueness with the world and to live your life without limits.
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To Your Life Without Limits,
Elena & Jean
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