Overcome The Fear Of Being Judged By Others

fear of being judged by others

Sometimes it feels like the whole world is watching and your mind swims with thoughts of, “I’m going to make a complete fool of myself.” Or “what if I fail, then everyone will know.”

Fear is one of the most powerful emotions.  But the fear of being judged by others, is not really the problem in living a life without limits, it’s what you do when fear sets in. It’s your actions when fear and self-doubt occur, that determines your path to “success” or of feeling “stuck.”

Overcoming the fear of being judged by others is critical to living your life without limits.

Whenever we follow our own path or dreams, we face the fear of being judged by others. We are all here to be creative and to follow our dreams and passions, with our own unique gifts to share with the world. This is part of being who we are, that sets us apart and sometimes allows us to fall into the fear of being judged.

I know it has been a huge struggle for me and each time we worry about being judged we hold ourself back from being our most creative and original self. We block ourselves from our true purpose.

The truth is, the further you step outside the box, the more vulnerable you feel.  It’s a real block for me that I constantly have to battle. What I know is that, it’s totally in MY HEAD.  The whole world does not judge and watch us. Of the people that do notice what we are doing, most are not judging.

Many people are totally impressed by your unique gifts and talents and that we tend to dismiss.

So when the fear of being judged appears, here are a few of the things that will help you overcome it.

Acknowledge that fear of being judged is a real and common fear. Like anything else the fear of being judged by others can’t be overcome until you understand and acknowledge that it exists, and that it really is YOUR fear.

Most people are not judging you at all, but are busy living their own lives.

Don’t look for other people’s approval. I know this sounds difficult but whenever I notice I am falling into this trap, I tell myself, “Other peoples opinion of me is none of my business.” It sounds a little silly but it works.

Take action. The sooner you take action the better. Like other fears that you face as you grow and build the life of your dreams, your fear of being judged diminishes each time you step into it. So the best way to conquer it is to take steps forward, no matter how small, each day.

We are all here for our own unique purpose and story. We all choose to fulfill our purpose and live our life without limits or to live with regret.

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To Your Life Without Limits,

Elena & Jean

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  • I definitely face this now that I have an online business and no privacy any longer! So thanks for reminding me that I am not alone and for the useful tips in how to overcome the fear.

    • Jeanmarie Bills says:

      Your welcome Melanie. It is hard to make that transition where everything you do becomes public information. We wish you great success.

  • Mai says:

    You’re addressing such an important issue we all face and presenting very doable solutions anyone can implement right away. Thank you!

  • Christine says:

    Great advice! We all face the fear of being judged by others, and it’s true that the more we step outside our box, the more vulnerable we feel. I go through periods of boldness and timidness as I banish fear and then fear slowly creeps up again. Thanks for the tips!

  • Jeanmarie Bills says:

    Your Welcome Christine. I think you described it perfectly, we fluctuate as we accept new chalenges, find success, then another challenge comes up. As a female entrepreneur your constantly accepting new challenges.

  • Kathy Loftus says:

    Can relate to this Jean. Thank you for the pointers. Have noted for when the need arises

    • Jeanmarie Bills says:

      Thanks Kathy. This is one of those issues that comes about as we accept new challenges as entrepreneurs. Glad you liked it.

  • Mary Wisniewski says:

    Thank you for the post. I think about fear often, dismiss the fear and move on. Your post addressed similar thoughts to what I think. Thank you for showing me and others that we are not alone.

    • Jeanmarie Bills says:

      You are welcome Mary. You are right we all have similar thoughts it’s what we do that makes the difference.

  • Good article Jeanmarie. I like the bit about being reminded that nobody’s really taking any notice …they are living their own lives.

    • Jeanmarie Bills says:

      Thanks Jane. Yes we tend to think people are always evaluating us. In reality we tend to be our own worst critiques.

  • Mai says:

    You’re addressing such an important issue in this post Jeanmarie! Thanks for the reminder that we don’t have to be controlled by our fear!

    • Jeanmarie Bills says:

      Your welcome Mai. Glad you liked it. Fear is certainly one of our biggest issues as a entrepreneur.

  • sandy mauck says:

    strong, solid support here around a common issue of the fear of being judged. You have normalized it for me and that helps to go beyond my “head” conversations about “what will people think?” which seems to go on incessantly whether I like it or not. Thank you.

    • Jeanmarie Bills says:

      Thanks Sandy. It still goes on in my head too, though not near as often anymore. Whenever you hear that judging voice remind yourself that what other people think of you is, “none of your business.” This has helped me a lot.

  • great practicle advice Jean, I’ve been reading a lot about facing your fears and the more I read the more I realise now I am aware of it, I can start to deal with it on a concious level, rather than letting it just take over.
    Thank you for bringing it to our awareness

    • Jeanmarie Bills says:

      Your welcome Bernie. I agree the more aware we are the easier it is to face our fears. Without facing our fears we are unable to uild the life we desire.

  • Michelle says:

    Thanks Jean for a wonderful post. We really are our own worst enemies sometimes- getting bogged down by the fear of what others may think. You are spot on when you say, “Other people’s opinions of me is none of my business.” What is important is how we see ourselves.

  • Margaret Buj says:

    Great tips Jean. This year I am out of my comfort zone a lot. However, taking action definitely works and a year from now what seems quite difficult now, would probably seem really easy!

  • JEREMY says:

    This has been quite a problem for me such that i cannot socialize well with others. i shall now try harder to fight this enemy within.

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