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Let me explain.
Nobody gets through life without experiencing some form of loss. For me it was the painful experience of my daughter dying. It may be a death, divorce, cancer or the loss of innocence as a child. Whatever the loss – these experiences become a part of our thoughts.
It’s these tiny micro adjustments in our thoughts that have a huge power to give meaning to the loss.
Our words are the result of these deep thoughts and beliefs that we have taken on from our past experiences.
No matter how old they are or steadfast they may seem a slight adjustment in them can often change our world. And it’s through these tiny adjustments in thoughts that over time become transformations in our life.
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I have shared so much about the loss of my daughter in a drowning accident years ago because the journey through that loss was encased in lessons. Lessons of forgiveness, (for myself and for her for leaving me), despair, guilt, faith, survival, love, happiness, and so much more.
That very night of her death I took on beliefs. Some were serving but most were not. Regardless they all seemed very real. As if they were carved in stone as laws. But the reality was, none of them where laws at all.
The lessons I learned came in these tiny ahhh haaa moments, adjustments in thought, that chipped at the stone bit by bit and over time the stone, and the false laws crumbled.
The problem is, many times we never question the beliefs that we take on. We get comfortable with the thoughts and beliefs. We get comfortable with the patterns the routine, repeating day after day, week after week.
The same thoughts and patterns are lived over and over.
It becomes a part of our identity and it’s scary as h*ll to let go of a piece of our identity even when it’s not true.
We feel guilty as we start to let go of grief. Guilty that we start to laugh again, guilty that we can enjoy life again.
Here is where we can get stuck. Guilt and fear can hold us to the old thoughts, the old words and patterns and we miss those tiny adjustments, the ahh haaa moments that are part of life’s transformations. We miss how we can give meaning to the loss, how we can begin to truly thrive.
Life is precious.
Not just my daughter Serena’s life, but all of us our lives are precious. We are all here for a purpose. The experiences of our past are for a reason and can be our biggest opportunity for transformation.
So how do you find those ahh haaa moments to transform, give meaning to the loss and thrive?
Know your words are your destiny.
Your words are the expression of your deepest beliefs about what’s possible.
You have the power to choose and change your words and therefore change your life and give meaning to your loss.
Those ahh haaa moments come when you change what you’re telling yourself.
It is the combination of you and your past experiences and the wisdom you’ve gained through these experiences, these ahh haaa moments that become your story to share with the world and can give meaning to the loss.
Listen to your words. What are you telling yourself?
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